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Notes from the room.

How circles get built, what we've learned running them, and the things we've got wrong. Written by hosts, never by a marketing team.

Why the third meeting is the only one that counts

The first meeting is polite. The second is a test — everyone is quietly checking whether the room can hold the true version. Something specific happens at the third, and it is the entire reason we run circles instead of events.

We match on disclosure, not on industry

Putting two people in a room because they both work in D2C is a weak reason to expect anything of them. Putting them there because they open up at the same speed turns out to be a much stronger one.

The no-pitch rule, and why we enforce it hard

One person selling in a circle costs eleven other people their evening, and it does not cost them anything. So we made it the only rule with a strike count attached to it.

The homemakers' circle is the one we're proudest of

It was the hardest to fill, the hardest to explain to a partner, and the one where the most has happened. That ordering is not a coincidence.

Our first circle had sixteen people and it didn't work

Sixteen splits into two conversations at about the ninety-minute mark, every single time. We tried twice before we accepted it and dropped to twelve.

We said no to a lender who wanted the Between Jobs room

It was real money and it would have been the easiest sale of the quarter. Here's the reasoning we used, in case it's useful to anyone building something similar.

What the image test actually measures

Twelve pictures, ninety seconds, and a latency clock. An explanation of what we read from it, what we deliberately don't read from it, and why we still put a human in front of every match.

Open TableTwenty-six seats, a fresh mix
The ExperienceDoing something, shoulder to shoulder
A group of people standing together on a hill
The RetreatTwo nights, and the conversation that needs them

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